Wednesday, May 7, 2014


Are we born good or bad? I don’t really think so. We are all born with absolutely no affection, no hatred, completely neutral and oblivious to everything around us. Then we feel love and affection from our parents and near and dear ones (the lucky ones amongst us) and begin to believe that there is all that there is to the world, love, happiness. But one fine day, we lose it all, to some careless, unknowing, intentionally or unintentionally selfish person, and we are taken aback, feeling stupid at our ignorance. A couple of such instances then firmly cement our belief that the world is evil, bad and superficial. Probably all that is true, but we do forget in the process about the love that we are showered with from people around us, we begin to doubt every love, considering it selfish.

No love is unconditional, probably every love is selfish, you always love somebody wanting them to love you back. But then love is love, whether selfish or not, we must thank our destiny for all the love we receive, a smile, a hug, a handshake, a compliment, whatever, because these small signs of respect are instances of love. Thank yourself for love and give it to people irrespective of their attitude towards love.

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Being kind

I chanced upon watching this movie the other day called 'That's what I Am' , it had mostly to do with bullying and tolerance in schools, but what caught in my head was this quote which makes this school teacher win a flashy car in a contest for a '25 or less words' solution to world peace. He said "Human dignity + compassion = peace". How true is that!

The natural tendency of a child is to be happy, smile and be kind. Where then do we learn to be sad and frown and be mean? Somewhere along the way, the world gets to us, bad experiences, sad thoughts and generally some mean people around make us a mean person. I have often had instances when I have wanted to hit some people outright for being mean, and I have in certain instances listened to my impulse and let it lead me but I will always feel guilty for those times. Not guilt perhaps, because you don't learn unless you make mistakes, but perhaps disappointment on succumbing to the pressure.

Far far less times , I have been able to hold myself back and smile at them. When you do that, you see them in a different light. You don't feel above them, you just start to love them for being different people. We do not live in a perfect world but being kind to each other can probably help. Its true you never forget people who mock at you without reason but its also true that nobody wants to be remembered as that person. So why even try? And what good is a great wardrobe, money or charity when you can't be nice to people around you, because often, you don't even have to 'find time' to do that.

The easiest thing to do is to smile and it beats me why people don't do it enough. Like not smiling makes them elite?? A smile can turn around somebody's day and yours. Lets do it more often, and not only for the camera! And be kind because its easy! :)

Sunday, February 3, 2013


Sometimes life tells you that all people are not meant to be together. And you fight it, knowing you can't change a thing. But life doesn't change, you can't fight people to be with you.

And it is all right because nothings permanent, there'll always be people coming and leaving from your life, there can't be parallel routes forever. Hopefully with time you begin to live without them, picture life without them, but it is most difficult when you can't shut them away from your life. You know they exist and you still can't do a thing about it. Sometimes I feel like I am the worst person in this world, I could be, who knows. But then when you have to explain yourself to people who have been with you forever, it is so not worth it. Probably people who want will stay.

 I am going to let go of some people today.  I hope I'll not be hurting like I am today after sometime, I hope this is just a bad day, and I hope more won't come. I wish people could let go of grudges and be together.. just plain happy, without being philosophical and diplomatic about it. But until then, I am just wishing for a better day.